This week has been a big one for me in terms of creating more awareness about how to overcome anxiety. I’ve learned that it’s important to understand that it’s a process, but it’s even more important to understand that this recognition shouldn’t overwhelm you.
There are many people who see overcoming anxiety as a hill they have to climb rather than imagining that it is a path connected to the lessons they need to learn.
This simple image will change everything almost immediately. Whether it’s a hill to climb or a path with lessons to be learned, the only difference is which one you choose. You know, you have a choice here. How you approach the process of getting rid of anxiety is up to you, no one else. And once you’ve made the right choice, you’ll consciously imagine the best-case scenario, rather than unconsciously continuing to imagine the worst and thus increasing levels of anxiety.
It’s easy to get distracted these days, the world is so noisy and pulling you around. This can be exhausting because you are unsure of what direction you personally need to take in order to heal.
Coping with anxiety and dealing with it are two different things, and I believe that whichever approach you entertain and focus on regularly will actually show.
For example, someone who subconsciously tries to control anxiety will always feel the need to contain it in some way, regardless of the situation. However, someone who is trying to leave it behind for good allows their subconscious mind (or inner child) to let fear-centered perceptions arise whenever they want.
I believe that the vast majority of people who suffer from anxiety rush the process, or at least always try to rush it. If something doesn’t work for a few days and makes them feel better, they put it aside and look for something else. However, if they start working subconsciously with an “anxiety management” approach, they will begin to create physical anxiety and mental reasons why their progress will not continue.
When someone adopts the attitude that relief from anxiety is a goal and possible for them, they will find comfort in developing their anxiety and will not allow their fear-centered defense mechanisms to take over.
When we discuss “defense mechanisms” to deal with anxiety, we’re looking at the ways the subconscious mind plays tricks on us. These tricks can come from:
- Mental excuses about how we don’t deserve or can’t heal.
- Physical increase in anxiety symptoms or travel between body parts anxiety symptoms.
- More emotional distress when the thought of doing something outside of our comfort zone arises.
- Looking at the world with exaggerated fear.
- Irritability and anger towards people and situations that really don’t deserve it.
These are just a few examples of these defense mechanisms by the inner child that prevent us from healing from anxiety. Oftentimes, if this part of us feels that change is happening too quickly for our own pleasure, it will create a series of ways to trap you back into the prison of irrational fear.
If this post speaks to you so far, that’s fine, because it should.
The reason I say this necessarily is that you still believe you need to carry elements of anxiety with you every day. Well, you don’t, and recovery from anxiety takes a certain amount of courage and you have to find it in yourself.
Soon you will be attuned to the positives rather than the negatives. It’s a freeing but often uncomfortable place because it’s so unfamiliar.
So the main message of the day is to look inward and ask yourself what your relationship is with your anxiety: to understand that your #1 anxiety and the timetable for getting rid of #2 anxiety are not up to you. Realizing that some things are out of your control, like how quickly you will heal, will allow you to tap into a different form of intelligence, your higher self, and that is the missing component to your recovery.
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